I take a counseling approach that draws heavily on three theoretical traditions: psychodynamics, which emphasizes an understanding of the links between past experiences and current problems; family systems, which aims at helping families and couples recognize and repair repetitive, troublesome patterns in their communications, interactions, roles, and rules; and cognitive behaviorism, which focuses on changing the distorted habits of thinking and belief that fuel self-defeating behaviors and emotional distress.
The most powerful influences on my work have been Attachment Theory (a psychodynamic approach) and the growing body of neuroscientific research that demonstrates its validity. The Attachment model explains how our early childhood relationships with our parents and others exert a profound, long-term influence on the ways we experience our world, ourselves, and our relationships in the here and now.
The Counseling Connection
Although theory matters, the most important factor in counseling success is the therapeutic relationship, the one between me and you. I want you to have a place where you can experience the freedom to be yourself without fear of judgment; the trust to share your thoughts and emotions openly and honestly; the confidence to take on the difficult work of inner change; and the assurance of my utmost respect for your intuition, intelligence, and judgment. Although I may encourage you to challenge your own assumptions and take emotional risks, it will be at your own pace and in your own way.
I believe in this approach because it stands on a solid foundation of theory and research. And I believe that for most people it offers the best potential to accomplish what counseling is all about: understanding self, solving problems, finding hope, and changing life for the better.